Just Get Over It

How often have you heard these four words? I have heard them more times than I care to remember.  Do they help? Rarely.  It has such a different tone than Nike’s tag line, “Just Do It!” If you want me to start questioning myself and my actions, this phrase is a great...
We Need To Talk

We Need To Talk

Four of the more dreaded words to hear from someone who is important to us.  When they have been directed at me, I feel a surge of heat go up my spine and experience a sense of dread. You know it’s not going to be your lover or spouse telling you how you have made her...
What To Do When you Feel Beat Up

What To Do When you Feel Beat Up

How hard it is to be rejected! How painful it is when you have invested your heart, time and money in someone, believing that your future together was golden and assured. You have finally found true happiness! Remembering how you loved, how wonderful and sweet your...

My Soulmate checklist

We all have them. I guarantee you have one. I know I do. I have been using it for all of my dating life. Sure, it has been edited and updated over my 47 years of dating and marriage, but much of it has remained the same. You know the list. You have shared it with your...

My Therapist Drives Me Crazy

I am my toughest client. As a psychotherapist for the past seven years I have collected stories and lessons from my clients through over 14,000 hours of counseling. But, I must admit, dealing with my own personal relationships has probably been the most challenging,...